Declaring the Relationship Revolution
Your relationship is yours, yours together, and it belongs to no one else. It is yours together to create and negotiate, nurture and enjoy. This may seem like a statement of the obvious, but I encourage you right now to examine ways that your relationship is affected by external influences. It is not a judgment, merely an exercise that may spark insight. Despite the fact that we live in one-size-fits-all relationship culture, you have every right to dream up the most amazing relationship together and make it happen. It doesn’t have to fit within a certain definition or category or look like anyone else expects it to look. It is yours!
The only people whose satisfaction regarding the relationship is necessary are the people in the relationship. If it works for you together and brings you fulfillment and satisfaction, give yourselves permission to revel in it in all its unique glory. If you are living a relationship according to how partnerships “should” look and you are dissatisfied, it is time for you together to declare your own relationship revolution.
My experiences with partnerships as their coach has proven to me that people are most satisfied in relationships where their evolving needs are met through constant direct communication. Although research supports that the concepts of high levels of quality communication and partners being attentive to others’ needs lead to people feeling more satisfied in their relationships, it is more important to acknowledge it just resonates in our experience as human beings.
It is really the experience of each partnership as they engage the feedback loop of changing habit patterns of communication that the more they share with each other, the more information they each get in return. No one is left guessing. Each partner sets the other up for success by communicating their desires and needs which supports an informed response. The more your partner asks for exactly what they need, the better you can meet your partner’s needs. Further, knowing that your relationship is your co-creation is an acknowledgment that no one unilaterally makes decisions. The communication is a constant, solution-oriented negotiation.
Embracing the dance of the negotiation allows for direct communication of needs while also leaving space for a creative counter offer. Also, it is never a bad idea to get advice from a professional like life coach Chicago and see how they can be of help.